A Little More At Ease With Who I Am

A Little More At Ease With Who I Am

As I sit here this morning wondering what I will write about, with too many ideas racing though my head, I turned to a collection of images that are resting on my desktop. I have both taken and collected images from other places to illustrate my blog posts over the years. As I looked back at my archive, I noticed how the expression on my face and the stiffness of my body has changed. It has been only in the…

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Gender Is Not Just What Our Bodies Tell Us

Gender Is Not Just What Our Bodies Tell Us

“Gender is an aspect of our individuality.”  These words from Thomas Moore got me thinking about gender and my own identity. When a person is nude, gender is an obviously physical thing as this image illustrates. But what gender are we as individuals? The obvious answers are either male or female, but as science and life teaches us, there isn’t always an obvious answer even on the basic physical level. When it comes to the psychological level it gets even…

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Relationships Demand Investment Of Self

Relationships Demand Investment Of Self

I return to the second part of this series of posts that focuses on Daryl Sharp’s quote: “the license to be unfaithful”? When we hear the word “unfaithful” the first assumption is that one partner has engaged in sexual relationships with someone outside of the relationship. Typically the scenario plays out where a man has stepped outside of his marriage to have a mistress. We assume that it is all about sex. He is deemed as unfaithful to his wife….

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Not The Big Sleep – Others As Mirrors

Not The Big Sleep – Others As Mirrors

In this photo taken a few days ago, I was in my neighbour’s yard. I strayed out of my own yard, the usual taking of risks, whether it is in the back lane or elsewhere. If you have read many of my posts, here, this will come as no surprise. Was this a form of cheating on my wife, to potentially allow another woman to see me nude? This neighbour has seen me nude a number of times while I…

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Recovering Personal Authority

Recovering Personal Authority

So many people are focused on the outer world. And if one hears any of the news that is flooding all of the media, they [we] need to have a strong focus on the outer world lest it careens out of control into all sorts of collective nightmares. Regardless of what is transpiring in the outer world, it doesn’t mean that we need to abandon our private, inner world. If we don’t maintain our own personal authority, we become puppets,…

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Both Humans In A Relationship Are Wounded

Both Humans In A Relationship Are Wounded

Probably the hardest part of coming to grips with oneself at midlife, is the realisation that one is essentially alone. Regardless of how filled one’s life is with people, there is a sense of aloneness. Though others may share the same house, or even the same bed, the space between self and other widens the more one becomes conscious. This is a very difficult time for relationships including marriages. As James Hollis points out what we already know, “Marriages often…

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Risk Making Your Own Choices

Risk Making Your Own Choices

I am sitting in my tiny camping trailer while a gentle rain falls outside. The temperature has fallen to single digits and the breeze is brisk. It definitely isn’t the most pleasant situation for me to go out for a nude walk. I tried and the walk was shortened as I hurried back to my warm, tiny trailer. There is no Internet here at Green Haven, so I spend most of my time writing, taking occasional breaks to read. Having…

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Living An Examined Life

Living An Examined Life

I am at Green Haven, a naturist campground/community that is my home club. I have the opportunity to spend eight days at this site, engaged in a writing retreat, a skyclad writing retreat. I am rewriting the final book of my autobiography. I have pulled the old version off of bookshelves in various stores and have consigned more than a hundred copies of the book to the recycle bin. The old version was more of a soap opera badly written…

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Being Sexual Is Not Dependent Upon Nudity

Being Sexual Is Not Dependent Upon Nudity

I have been spending my time today doing a fair amount of writing and more research for my various projects, one of the benefits of retired life. Strangely, there has been very little time spent with social media where the debates about what is suitable imagery and attitude for those who are naturists or nudists. Specifically, what role does sex play, if any in the world of naturism. I have my own opinions of sexual imagery and naturist imagery and…

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What About The Children?

What About The Children?

I am asking this question because almost all of the outrage being expressed against nudity, especially nudity in the home and in public, is prefaced with “My God! What if children see nude people? They’ll be scarred forever!” As a naturist and as a therapist, I obviously don’t believe that nudity in itself causes psychological scarring for children or for adults. We are all nude beneath our clothing and are born nude. We are the only species that covers up…

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