Life is complicated. There are so many unknowns that influence a person’s life, almost too many at times. At first is all seems so simple. Then, we get older. The older a person gets, the more complex even the simplest of things become. In this image, Joy is pondering just how complex relationships are.
Take love for example. A person falls in love and that love is often mirrored by that other person with whom one has fall in love. It’s simple. “I’m in love!” No other explanation is needed. One dives deep into that love. And as I have written about before, the conscious mind [ego] doesn’t have a say in whether one is in love or not. Then, time passes and the mind has to deal with the result.
Usually, well perhaps not as the divorce and separation stats appear to soar, as the two parties become consciously self and other aware, there is a change in the nature of love and in the relationship between each other. And, things do change, and not always for the better. Both parties find themselves in a new world when they see the person they had chosen as a life partner become strangers. Have they become strangers? Each person as the veil of love is lifted become more and more themselves. What that looks like to the other person is that he or she is now a stranger.
Because of a shared history, there are choices to be made for the survival of the relationship. Sometimes the choice is easy, when there is a gross level of disrespect, a level of danger [either physical or mental], a high level of comfort and trust built over the years, etc. For the rest, it is a matter of time and rekindling those things that had initially bonded the two. However, for perhaps too many, it becomes an economic choice or one based on the fear of being alone. There are no right or wrong answers to be given as each relationship has their own, unique combination of factors.
As Joy so wisely puts it: “I’m still dealing with the complexities of that love even just this morning… our dance seems to be never ending.”