I wrote a post back in December 2011 that explored the roots of misogyny. Sad to say that misogyny is thriving in today’s world. As a father of two adult daughters who are mothers, there is nothing that gets my ire up more than hearing men demean women without knowing anything about the women they are directing disgusting statements. In the world of naturism, women have a hard go. Too many men respond to any image of women unclothed with dick pics and salacious comments. Whenever a man senses the loss of being in control, he typically resorts to attacking an “other” whom he blames for stealing that control. Unknown to the man is the fact that is not the “other,” a woman out there, who has done this to him. The culprit lays within himself, in his shadow, buried in a negative mother complex. With that said, here is the original post.
The feminine isn’t all about love. Venus the goddess of love has her twin, Kali the goddess of death and destruction. Every archetype has both a dark side and a light side, the archetype of the feminine is no different. When we project the feminine onto others, we often attach either the dark or the light aspect of the feminine. We want to possess the light-faced feminine and fear being possessed by the dark-faced feminine. The dark feminine has many faces. The most fearsome for modern men is the face that is called Vagina Dentala.
One must understand that the fear some men have of the feminine is the fear of being emasculated. As always, irrational fears are projected onto women. When a man cannot own his fear and see that his fear is about his own relationship to his feminine, his own soul, the man has dark fantasies where a woman will devour his penis, leaving him without the proof of his being a man.
Such a man cannot relate well to real women and often becomes a misogynist. He hates women because he fears women. He fears women because he believes that given a chance women will make him a eunuch in fact if not in spirit. The vagina is feared as a dark place that will steal a man’s energy leaving him a prisoner, drugged with her sex.
Is this a condition born out of negative personal mother experiences? Is this a condition born out of rejection and ridicule during early adolescence? It doesn’t matter where the condition arises or if it even arises. All men have at least a small fear of becoming impotent, of being less of a man, a fear of not being man enough for his woman. That fear translates into a lucrative business of drugs that allow the penis to stand tall giving a man the illusion that he is a man.
Paternalistic religions are often placing women in the role of darkness. Christianity puts the blame all on Eve. Many other religions require women to hide themselves so that their physical aspect doesn’t corrupt men. Women are denied education, denied equality, denied, defiled and often destroyed. In many eastern cultures, there is a belief that only men can aspire to a heaven-like post-life existence, and that only if they live celibate lives.
And all of this fear of the feminine within a man is projected upon the women, the girl children and even female babies. How many cultures both past and present devalue the birth of a female. In China, the state is trying to prevent disclosure of fetus gender as it sends pregnant women to abortion clinics. Female babies do get abandoned. If only men could become more conscious and withdraw their fear and get to know their own feminine nature.