Nu comme le jour où je suis né

Staying on Task as a Naturist Writer

A bit of rain must fall

I think we have entered the rainy season. The forecast for most of February is for overcast skies and periodic rain showers on an almost daily basis. I had been aware of this possibility, but the reality is different than my expectations.  It isn’t cold outside with the temperatures slowly moving from 22 to 26 degrees Celsius each day. It’s a good thing that the casa is large. With two storeys, there is a lot of space so that we don’t get on each other’s nerves too much.

As long as I don’t do anything foolish such as making my nudity a public event, and I restrict my nudity to the upper balcony, away from the railing that overlooks the main yard which we share with two condos, all is well. Of course, I don’t exactly do as I am told as the photo proves. If anyone from either condo looked out their windows, I would have easily been seen. So why do I take these needless risks? It’s a question that at present doesn’t have an answer. It’s a situation many naturists who have a partner who isn’t a naturist has to deal with on a constant basis. But that isn’t the reason for today’s post.

For me, when the weather gets like this, I slip into a deeper level of reflection, one that looks to possible futures. Where do I see myself in the future? Just the simple fact that I will be returning to Canada in another six weeks has me questioning how that will work out in terms of my penchant for being out of my clothing. I mean, it will still be winter on the prairies. Realising the futility in heading down this trail of thinking, I turn again to the re-write of my third book in the “Broken Road” series.

The book is now into chapter six with slightly more than 14,000 words captured. I already know that the new version is light years better than the original book which was more of a clinical document than a story. The characters from book two reappear and it is beginning to sound and feel like a novel that has depth, without being a book filled with quotations and footnotes. This weather is the best gift I could be given at this time as it encourages me to stay on task.

7 Comments

  1. coolbrzy

    I don’t exactly do as I am told as the photo proves… So why do I take these needless risks? 

    I find this question surprising, coming from a psychologist. It is human nature to both want comfort and adventure. We learn to avoid pain as children, yet our craving for the dopamine hit/adrenaline rush is greatest when we are too safe and become bored with routine and feel trapped in the mundane. Hence, as you did by standing on the balcony, we attempt to take managed risks, assessing the comparative reward vs risk from a given behavior. Once rewarded with a certain level of stimulation, we are content to fall back into our routine, UNLESS we become addicted to adrenaline. Your life partner doesn’t share your significant passion for nudism. That is a microcosm of group dynamics; what holds the group together vs what separates them. You accept the benefits of the relationship (as we all do) for the compromise of restraining your passion but eventually you need to ignore those restrictions/’rebel’ a bit and express your identity. It seems to me that the real question is: how do I address the frustration in my relationship and unfulfillment while sustaining the respect and admiration (love) for a somewhat* inflexible partner? *i.e. one who cooperates to a extent, but not to a satisfactory level, much less an enthusiastic one.

    • SkyCladTherapy

      Rhetorical question … LOL! A perusal of many of my posts will give more meat to the ongoing internal dialogue that is placed on cyberspace paper, so-to-speak. The striking of a balance between the demands of anima [inner feminine archetype] and the outer woman found in any man’s relationship must always find that balance between self and other that is always in a curious tension. See the yin-yang symbol which has both forever circling.

      • coolbrzy

        Lol, at myself. Rhetorical question makes perfect sense; and I certainly missed that as a possibility! I have read your other posts, so it is clear of the struggle to balance competing interests (relationship and self). The ever present question “If I can’t have everything I want, how do I make the most of what I can, and how to be satisfied with what I have?” A lifetime is too short to answer this question, and we are always like scientists and cooks, trying to improve on our current formula/recipe while searching for perfection/ultimate satisfaction, an elusive goal at best. 🙂

  2. coolbrzy

    BTW this is not at all meant as criticism. We all tend to avoid the hard questions when the stakes are high, and we are significantly vested in the outcome. Or we simply are too emotionally involved or too stressed by other issues to see a matter clearly. But asking the right questions is key to finding real answers. And sometimes the best answer is simple acceptance that the status quo is the best option available at the time. But that at least is.the situation as it appears to me, if only b/c your circumstances resemble mine to a degree.

    • SkyCladTherapy

      Not taken as criticism. I would love to know more of your won story. Thanks for taking the time to add your words here. -Robert

  3. coolbrzy

    Same boat; had Naturist tendencies as a boy but put them behind me, only to realize much later that I have an artistic temperament that is more of my identity than I’d allowed myself to believe. The appreciation for beauty, the introvert (though not shy) tendencies, the inclination to live in the moment vs force others to face unpleasant realities, all are challenges that are confronted by the decisions made while trying to be someone else. I’m old enough to recognize the influences that played a role in childhood and young adulthood without worrying about regret, yet young enough to still be wrestling with career decisions and family issues that dissipate with retirement. So I am now finally getting financially stable again, a child’s health issues stabilized, and looking into a new direction with my career that will allow me to enjoy the outdoors and hopefully, Naturism. The challenge then is the temporary uncertainty and reluctant spouse issues. Not a crisis, by any means, but a challenge nonetheless, similar in some respects to the situation about which you have written so well.

    • SkyCladTherapy

      I truly appreciate your responses here, Coolbrzy. I look forward to many such exchanges in the future. Thanks 🙂

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