I Got To Walk With Brian

A walk with Brian near his acreage in the Eagle Hills near Battleford.

I just got news today that I never wanted to hear. My friend, Brian died yesterday. Brian was the president – the heart and soul – of the non-landed naturist group called Prairie Suns. My wife and I have taken part at various times over the years at events held at the acreage where Brian lived with his wife. And, there were other times such as in the scene above where it was just the two of us as friends with no organised event needed. As couples, we visited them and they visited us.

I talked with his wife Nancy this morning intending to visit their home again as I had earlier this spring. Before I could even bring up the reason for my call, she told me the sad news. I will learn more about “what next?” tomorrow. It felt strange to me as my wife and I had been talking about them during our morning countryside walk about an hour before I found out the news.

One thing that this type of news does, is to reinforce the idea that one shouldn’t postpone too many things for the future. There is no promise of tomorrow for any of us. So as a result, I am going to put myself out there more in ways that will allow me to be even more who I want to be. You will find out more about this in future posts.

11 thoughts on “I Got To Walk With Brian

  1. It’s very hard to loose such a special friend. I know how it feels as I too lost a dear lifelong friend this year. My condolences to you and Maureen. We have both reached that time in our lives where we acquire the wisdom that comes time lived and the awareness that we have lived that time and that our own lifeline draws shorter every day. We don’t need to fill up the bucket list with more stuff to do, what we need is to enjoy each and every day we have left.

    • Thank you, Alex. You are right – enjoy each and every day as it appears. Being present with others, risking being our authentic selves – that is part of what is needed.

    • Thank you, William. It is a reminder that we are mortals after all, not the invulnerable supermen we once believed ourselves to be.

  2. AS I get older I have come to realize that I have to come to terms with the certain fact of my death. To that end, I started to look at near-death experiences. The most comforting story for me was by Eben Alexander. His book “Proof of Heaven” is a must read in this genre. He is a Neurosurgeon who suffered a severe brain infection and was in a coma for a week.

    • I have to admit that I came to grips with my own mortality a long, long time ago. Perhaps it is my indigenous heritage, but I don’t fear death at a personal level. Death leaves a small hole in each of the survivors, at least that is what it feels like until one realises that death isn’t the end, just a shift in realities. Thank you, John for adding your words here.

  3. So sorry to hear about your friend’s passing Robert. Life is short and precious. I’m heartened to see that even at this sad time you are finding meaning for your own life and journey. My thoughts are with you.

  4. Hi Robert:

    We are so sorry to hear about the passing of your friend, Brian. Words are so
    difficult to provide the solace and comfort you need at this time. Only to say that the fond memories will eventually wipe away the tears and you will remember the great times you had together.

    Jan&Gary ❤️

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