Archive for November 1st, 2011
Today’s photo is courtesy of my brother who is in Canada while I am in China. In the photo taken not too many days ago, our mother is getting married to a man she has lived with for thirty-three years. For some reason, after both had received divorces from their original marriage partners, they have resisted getting officially married. Now that our mother is in the hospital undergoing dialysis every second day, they have changed their mind and have made the decision to make their “real” marriage official in the eyes of the world. There was no pressure upon either of them as we have long ago accepted that this man was indeed our mother’s true mate, something we were never able to state about our father when he was husband to our mother.
Of course, this post isn’t really about my mother and my stepfather, but about the marriage between the masculine and feminine within one’s own psyche. The idea of wholeness, the achievement of a balance is the result of that holy marriage. As I think of the outer world dance of relationship of my mother and my stepfather, I am given a symbolic representation of the heroic journey each of us must endure as we make our journeys through life. The symbolism for me is that if one holds the tension long enough, if one continues the journey in spite of what often seems life defeat, one may earn the reward of balance.
Giving up on the journey will only ensure that balance does not emerge. The heroic journey is a life-long journey, one in which one doesn’t quit the journey because the going gets tough.