I was being driven to view vegetable farming in a village near Hoi An when I say these three boats in the river. I managed to get the guide to have the driver stop so that I could take this photo. Though it seemed to crimp on the guide’s agenda and time, I finally got me way and walked back to the scene above. It only takes a bit of courage to say no to one’s guide when the guide forgets that it isn’t about the guide.
Sometimes, perhaps even often, this is the problem with counselling and therapy, the agenda is about meeting the needs of the service provider, than it is about meeting the needs of the one who comes for help and guidance. In seeking out a guide, one shouldn’t give up one’s autonomy and one’s ability to think for oneself and make decisions. One’s counsellor, therapist, analyst or shrink is not a god.
Okay, that small rant is over. I sometimes get heated because others want control that doesn’t belong to them, such as the guide that would have not stopped for me to take this photo.