Archive for July 4th, 2010
I took this photo early yesterday afternoon as I was leaving town for a walk through the countryside. I really had no intention of taking a “flower” photo with my mind on other things, especially things that have to do with relationships. That is one of the problems with getting involved with a project that focuses on “inner world” themes; one brings a different view to the world. Yet when I saw the bee through the edges of my vision, the decision was made – just one photo then I would continue my walk.
It has been a while since I read Robert A. Johnson’s and Aldo Carotentuto’s works on attraction, books that resonate with the Sol and Luna theme I have been working on for the latest eBook. I am beginning to see that “relationship” is about being pulled to participate in the outer world as much as it is about is demands that one honours the pull to individuate.
As a man, I am drawn to a woman. In today’s world, and I place myself squarely in the centre of this world. The pull to relationship with another person is as much about instinct as it is about “romantic” love. I believe in romance. Falling in love is anything but a logical or objective process. For the most part, it is all about mystery. Some strange forces “pull” one into a state of awe.
“It is difficult to look objectively at romance; it is painful, for we fear that reality will drive out the love, and that life will then be cold and dismal. But one of the great needs of modern people is to learn the difference between human love as a basis for relationship, and romantic love as an inner ideal, a path to the inner world. Love does not suffer by being freed from the belief systems of romantic love. Love’s status will only improve as love is distinguished from romance.” (Johnson, We: Understanding the Psychology of Romantic Love, pp 48-49)
So much to learn here. What does “falling in love” say about me, about the “inner” me? At what point does one let go of romantic love in a relationship in order to see if there is a love that remains for a true and deep relationship? Would there be less heartache if one didn’t cling so desperately to romantic love when the reality of the relationship asks for something different? So many questions and only each individual has a particular answer that lurks at the edges of consciousness.