More from Martin Buber:
You speak of love as if it were the only relationship between men; but are you even justified in choosing it as an example, seeing that there is also hatred?
- As long as love is “blind” – that is, as long as it does not see a whole being – it does not yet truly stand under the basic word of relation. Hatred remains blind by its very nature; one can only hate part of a being. Whoever sees a whole being and must reject it, is no longer in the dominion of hatred but in the human limitation of the capacity to say You. …
Yet, whoever hates directly is closer to a relation than those who are without love or hate. (Buber, I and Thou, 1970, pp 67-68)
These are powerful words, words that resonate with ideas from Jungian psychology as well. Awareness of other, where it be a person one loves or hates, is increased as one removes projects which allow a “real” person to emerge from behind our projections. Then, one can engage in real relationship with real people. Then love shifts and hate dissipates.