Archive for August 7th, 2009
I realise that I have used this photo before, but it fits today’s post so I am reusing it with apologies.
Continuing on with the topic of relationship, especially that deep relationship between two people that somehow defies common sense – romantic love. The story is as old as human kind. Boy meets girl, sparks fly and the world changes forever. For the two, it is as if both have died and gone to a place of eternal bliss. This is definitely something that has fueled movies, myths and our imaginations. This is something that has shaped our psyche in anticipation as a western world society, an anticipation that is seeping into other cultures and societies as our western world myths travel through the media. As I was doing something so mundane as shelling peas this morning, I was listening to the radio which played song after song that spoke to this, that celebrated and wept over romantic love. One song in particular caught my attention, a song sung by Trace Adkins called, “This Ain’t No Thinkin’ Thing.” I am putting the lyrics for the song here, lyrics I found here.
I been thinkin’ ’bout our love situation
All this attraction in the present tense
I’ve reached the only logical conclusion
Love ain’t supposed to make sense
This ain’t no thinkin’ thing
Right brain, left brain
It goes a little deeper than that
It’s a chemical, physical, emotional devotion
Passion that we can’t hold back
There’s nothin’ that we need to analyze
There ain’t no rhyme or reason why
Cause this ain’t, this ain’t no thinkin’ thing
Forget mathematical equations
Self help psychology
Gray matter don’t matter much darlin’
When it’s gettin’ down to you and me
Listening closely, it is easy how to see where such a relationship gets into trouble when one drops the rose-coloured glasses and begins to see the real person on the other side. Dropping the rose-coloured glasses is, of course, the withdrawing of projections. Listening closer, one realises that becoming more conscious is the death knell of romantic love. Does it also mean the end of relationship? Most times, yes. Sometimes however, what emerges is something even deeper; sometimes what emerges is an entrenchment into cohabitating seperateness where even “like” is lost in the fog of bitterness; sometimes both retreat into co-dependent unconscious clinging to what once was in fear of being alone with a “self” that is too much a stranger. What do you think?